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Drinking Poison and Expecting Yoga Selfies to Die

Selfies are here. Social Media is here. Yoga celebrities are here. Yoga teachers who can do advanced poses and the people who love them are here. Closing the stable door after the horse has bolted, is futile.

If you rant and rave at the horse, do you think it will go back in the stable?

Ranting and raving doesn’t work.  When people feel you are judging them, they don’t open up to you. They don’t listen to your message. They get angry and combative. If you do get through, it is normally because your words make them feel shame not empowerment. Most likely, they just hit delete, unsubscribe or unfollow.

Second, the toll it takes on you is tremendous.  All the anger and bitterness that builds inside as you watch someone, who you feel should be doing something, not doing it, hurts you. The person you are annoyed or mad at on Instagram, who did handstand in their bikini, doesn’t even know that you exist. They are not emotional because of what you are thinking, you are. Even if you send them a message talking about how they shouldn’t put that picture up, the 14,000 likes and 400 positive comments they received trump your one  message. Those 14,000 people who liked that selfie, don’t care that you didn’t.  Again, they don’t hurt,you do. The person, who posted the selfie,  keeps on getting endorsement deals, invitations to teach workshops, and world wide recognition. The people who liked the selfie, keep following and signing up for workshops.

If you have a message you want to give to the world, how can you do it in a way that will make people want to listen to you? How can you bring it to the world in a way that has impact? Telling someone what they should do and what they should feel, is not going to cut it. Ranting and raving, is not going to do it.  I am not saying I have the answer, however I do know this,


“Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”—Unknown


Ranting and raving about  yoga selfies is like you drinking poison and expecting yoga selfies to die.   Ranting and raving feels good….temporarily.  You get people who agree with you to rant and rave so you don’t feel alone, but it changes nothing. Social media is not going to die because you are angry at it. It is not going to die because you think is should be different. People are not going to stop posting selfies because YOU don’t like them. People who love selfies will continue to love them.

I don’t have a problem with selfies. I want you to follow me on Instagram…LOL. If you think this article is just about selfies, think again. It is about making a difference in any arena. You can rant or rave or you can figure out a way for people to see your point of view. They are not the same. For communication to be effective…it has to be effective.



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Shanna Small has been practicing Ashtanga Yoga and studying the Yoga Sutras since 2001. She has studied in Mysore with Sharath Jois and is the Director of AYS Charlotte, a school for traditional Ashtanga in Charlotte NC. She has written for Yoga International and the Ashtanga Dispatch. Go here for more information on AYS Charlotte. For information on workshops, please e-mail